Exploring Your Sexuality: Top Ways to Get in Touch With People With the Same Fantasies

Everybody has sexual fantasies, it’s totally normal. Most people refuse to embrace theirs, though, sadly. The main reason for this is that they lack the confidence to go out and fulfill their desires. However, not fulfilling one’s sexual fantasies can lead to repression and a life devoid of satisfaction.

If you are tired of suppressing your fantasies, then now’s the time to act. Society is very liberal and accepting. Whatever you are interested in, you will be able to find like-minded people, within reason.

This post will tell you how you can find people who share your fantasies.

Think First

Before you start exploring your sexuality, think about what turns you on. A lot of people rush into self-exploration and as a consequence make bad decisions. It can be very exciting when you decide to start exploring your sexuality, but that’s not to say that you shouldn’t still take your time and plan. Think about what turns you on, what you are interested in, and what your limits are. Only once these things have been considered can you start exploring.

Phone Sex

Phone sex is without a doubt one of this list’s most effective methods of exploring your sexuality. The reason that it’s so effective is that it is so impersonal. When you call one of these services, you are entirely anonymous. This means that you can talk about anything, within reason. You should be looking for cheap phone sex lines though because some of them can be very expensive. If you don’t want any evidence of you using these services showing up on your phone bill, then buy a disposable phone solely for the purpose of calling in.

Hiring Escorts

Escorts can also be a good (but expensive) way of exploring your sexuality. However, before you can hire an escort, you need to know exactly what you’re interested in. If you haven’t thought about what turns you on yet, then you need to. Once you know what you want, you can then find an escort that specializes in your particular fetish. Most experts will be willing to come to your house for a little extra. You can save money by meeting them in a venue of their choosing. Make sure to always wear protection, even if they say that you don’t have to.

Having Threesomes

Threesomes can be a very exciting way of exploring your sexuality, though they can be tricky to organize if you don’t know anybody who’s as interested in exploring their sexuality as you are. That said, there are some forums and chatrooms dedicated exclusively to threesomes, where people make arrangements to meet up. If you have no luck at all in finding people, then you can hire two escorts. You should tell them that this is what you will be doing first, though. If you have a partner, then you can ask them if they would be open to a threesome.


Orgies are a more extreme version of a threesome, usually involving over ten people. The best thing about orgies is that they are usually completely anonymous. All of the people involved in them are typically strangers to one another. Some sex clubs that host orgies even require people to wear masks, so that those involved are unidentifiable. Orgies can be a lot of fun, especially the more anonymous ones (because the more anonymous they are, the more you can let yourself go). Sex clubs that hold orgies are usually members-only affairs, so you will have to register before you are able to join in on anything.

Internet Chatrooms

Internet chatrooms, as mentioned earlier, are places where people discuss specific topics. You can find chatrooms dedicated to more or less every fetish under the sun. Unless you intend on meeting people from chatrooms, it’s a good idea to keep yourself anonymous. Whenever you are using a public chatroom, there is always the chance that you are going to encounter trolls. When you are discussing something as personal as your sexuality, you don’t want people leaking information about it, or using it to target you online. So, use a VPN and don’t reveal your true identity to people.


Webchat involves speaking with a cam girl via webcam. Webchat can be very erotic, and highly entertaining. It’s a lot like hiring an escort, except you are just masturbating together rather than having sex. If you are good at talking to women, then you might be able to convince one to sex chat with you using a service like Chatroulette or Omegle. These services allow you to talk to women from all over the world, anonymously. Many of the women that use these two websites are open to participating in erotic conversations and even masturbating on camera.

Open Conversation

If you have a partner, and you want to explore your sexuality with them, then you need to have an open conversation. You shouldn’t try to hide the fact that you are exploring your sexuality. Instead, you should be upfront and honest about it. If they truly love you and want you to be happy, then it is something that they will embrace and encourage. Hopefully, your partner will even agree to participate in things with you. Many couples try threesomes out as their first true exploration of their sexualities.

Staying Comfortable

Throughout your self-exploration, make sure that you are as comfortable as possible. If there is anything that intimidates you or makes you feel uncomfortable, then don’t be afraid to terminate whatever you are doing. When you are performing group sex with people, you also need to have safe words. A safe word is a word that’s uttered when a person wants sex to be terminated. It is especially important to come up with safe words if you are practicing more extreme forms of sex, like BDSM. Most escorts will require a safe word from you before participating in such fetishes, and they too will have one.

If you want to explore your sexuality, then why not do it with other people? Getting in touch with other people that share your interests can be a highly effective way of exploring your fetishes.